Archive for the ‘Foster & Adoptive Families’ Category

Holiday Lights in SPACE

November 21st, 2017

by Billy Kaplan, LCSW, President & Clinical Director As the daylight fades and the nights grow longer, many of us are preparing to bring light into the darkening world. Some of us light our Christmas Trees, some our Hanuka Menorahs, some our Kwanza Kinaras, and some our backyard bonfires. However we bring light to these…..


Sailing into Therapeutic Parenting

September 25th, 2017

By Billy Kaplan, LCSW   I learned to sail when I took time off this summer. While I was out on the lake, literally catching the wind, I realized that sailing is a LOT like therapeutic parenting. The first time I took a boat out without an instructor, but with my teen daughter, the clear…..


Time-out or Re-do: What are we Teaching our Youth?

January 26th, 2017

By Billy Kaplan, LCSW President & Clinical Director We’re doing the best we can to guide our kids toward behaving, being respectful and being successful in life. That’s why it’s so frustrating when some of our BEST parenting tricks, like using time-outs, don’t work. In their book, No Drama Discipline, Daniel J. Siegel and Tina Payne…..


Double-Rainbow Holidays

November 24th, 2015

We “know” that the winter holidays are supposed to be about bringing light into the dark winter nights, the joy of family, and for many of us, the celebration of the miracle of a menorah burning for eight nights or a blessed birth. And then there’s the other reality for many of us, especially many…..


Trendy New Tool: Calming Bottles

August 27th, 2015

By Katie Jackson, LCPC One of the clients I’ve been working with was having a really hard time calming her body which made sitting still and following directions extremely difficult. As you can imagine, she often found herself in a “time-in” due to her behavior, but then had an incredibly hard time actually fulfilling this…..


Sincere Regrets

February 23rd, 2015

By Billy Kaplan, President & Clinical Director Creating and facilitating communication is essential to what I do as a therapist. I help people to “communicate” with themselves, and to understand themselves in new ways so that they can make positive changes in their lives to feel and function better. And I help family members communicate…..


Happier (?) Father’s Day

June 13th, 2014

by Billy Kaplan Father’s Day Those words don’t seem to have the same impact on our adopted children as “Mother’s Day.” Why? I’m not really sure, nor do I think anyone knows. However, I would first speculate that it is clear that at the moment of birth, our children experience a great, and probably traumatic,…..


Do. And then understand.

June 3rd, 2014

I spent last weekend in the middle of the desert in New Mexico visiting a residential program outside Albuquerque. I could tell you about being impressed that the facilities of the Sandhill Child Development Center were actual homes that were re-developed as residential programs; that each of the rooms (except bathrooms) and hallways are monitored by…..


Happy (?) Mother’s Day

May 8th, 2014

By Billy Kaplan Mother’s Day: two words that send chills down the spines of adoptive mothers the world over. Years ago one mom told me how much she dreaded Mother’s Day because every one of the previous celebrations of it were just horrible. The kids sabotaged each and every one. So as I met with…..


Your Eyes in SPACE

April 29th, 2014

By Billy Kaplan It’s been a few weeks since the Parenting in SPACE gathering, and I wanted you to know that I’m thinking about you. A lot. I’m thinking about your eyes.  I’m thinking about how, when you first walked into the room for the opening program, your eyes were full of apprehension, and hurt,…..