House Calls Herald Newsletter Archive


October 2010

NEW Video on our YouTube Channel!
The “New Normal”

Billy Kaplan, LCSW, President and Clinical Director of House Calls Counseling, explains how to tell the difference between attachment-related defiance, and developmentally-appropriate teen defiance to confused parents!

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We’re Hosting a Conference!

And You’re invited!

The weekend of April 2nd and 3rd, 2011, join other parents and professionals at the beautiful Morton Arboretum in Lisle, Illinois for a weekend of education and support about attachment-related struggles and more importantly how to move forward from them!

We understand many caregivers come to experience great frustration, anger, resentment, and hopelessness. And we understand that young people with neglect and trauma experiences are among the most difficult of people to live with, let alone be around.

We believe caregivers love their children, even when it feels impossible to like them, and that young people and their caregivers, both, are doing their best to reach each other through the profound effects of childhood neglect and trauma.

Together, we’ll learn how early childhood neglect and trauma leave profound emotional and developmental scars that impair ability to trust others and to develop and maintain healthy relationships. And we’ll explore approaches for repairing these hurts in children.

Have no fear – while we’re learning to be Playful, Accepting, Curious and Empathic – we’ll have fun doing it. We think you’ll also feel supported and strengthened hearing parenting success stories from people who really get it-other parents.

Limited registration begins soon.

Learn more about the conference here.

Using Your Voice in Therapeutic Parenting
Christine Moers, HCC Conference Speaker, Explains

House Calls Counseling is thrilled to announce that Christine Moers, therapeutic parent and YouTube superstar, will be speaking at our upcoming conference!

Each month we will be showcasing one of her video blogs about attachment parenting right here in our newsletter … This month Christine explains how to use your voice to help your child regulate his/ her effect.

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The Importance of Play
By Bruno Bettelheim

From a child’s play we can gain understanding of how he sees and construes the world-what he would like it to be, what his concerns and problems are. Through his play he expresses what he would be hard pressed to put into words. A child does not play spontaneously only to while away the time, although he and the adults observing him may think he does. Even when he engages in play partly to fill empty moments, what he chooses to play at is motivated by inner processes, desires, problems, anxieties.

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Creating Structure in a Blended Family: A Mom’s Story
By Shannon O., HCC Client

As far as discipline and structure in our family, we struggled to blend our 7 children during the first 4 years because we did not actually sit down and write out our family rules or expectations, until last year. While we were fairly consistent on what we believed the infractions were, our children often complained that “no one ever told me” and often tried to play one parent against the other (and it worked). The stress and aggressiveness within the family was hitting a volatile level. No one felt safe. We were exhausted and really only beginning to understand the magnitude and origins of our children’s hurts and traumas. Many are struggling with ADHD, Depression, Addiction, and Reactive Attachment Disorder down to mild attachment issues.

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