2013 Conference Handouts

Foundations of Attachment by Wendy KovacsThis Way to the Workshops

Before being able to effectively work with traumatized children it is important t understand how the trauma has impacted their brains and bodies. This session focuses on these foundations of trauma and will introduce participants to the attachment cycle and explore causes of missed attachment.  Typical biological and chemical responses to trauma will be explored, along with basic developmental stages that are often missed when trauma is present. Get in the Support Zone Where You're Not Alone by Toni Hoy As therapeutic parents, we must break the parenting mold that we were raised in and learn a vastly different style of parenting. In addition, we have to stand alone when other parents judge or mock us out of misunderstanding. We have unique worries regarding our child’s illness and his future, as well as our own ability to navigate a difficult and unknown path. We need the support of other parents who know what it is like to walk a day in our shoes; yet, we find every excuse in the book for not getting support. What is preventing you from getting the support you know you need? Learn that it’s ok to need a different type of support than other parents need. Learn why you are not seeking support, how to get support, and most importantly, how to get the right support. Power Play! Parenting in Space by Karen Buckwalter and Marcia RyanKaren Buckwalter The ability to be playful with children and adolescents can not only diffuse a tense situation but also allow parents to develop a deeper connection with their child. It can be challenging to find ways to be playful with resistant or challenging children and teens. Combining a variety of therapeutic techniques including Theraplay® and Trust Based Relational Interventions (TBRI), this workshop will give parents practical hands-on skills for bringing more fun and less stress into their families. Introduction to SPACE by Billy Kaplan This workshop will provide an approach to therapeutic parenting that uses the acronym SPACE. SPACE is a way of engaging in therapeutic parenting by providing Safety, Structure, Supervision and Support, and by being Playful, Accepting, Curious and Empathic.  While there is no “magic pill” to heal the wounds of children who were traumatized in early childhood, utilizing SPACE has helped many parents to give their children great opportunities for healing. Accepting our Selves by Amber LeFevour We all come to parenting with our own “stuff.”  And sometimes that “stuff” gets in the way of parenting our traumatized children with the therapeutic touch we would like to provide.  In this workshop, we’ll turn the looking glass around and see the issues that prevent us from connecting with our children.  We will learn to practice Acceptance of ourselves, our history, our baggage, and our triggers, so that we can positively and enormously improve our ability to reach our children. ICARE: Helping Your Child Overcome ADHD by Rick Simon So much of Parenting in SPACE is about helping children improve their ability to self-regulate. This workshop looks at a challenging set of dysregulation problems, the ones associated with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder. Children with ADHD have trouble sustaining concentration, controlling impulses, organizing tasks, and tolerating frustration. Their ADHD can be particularly troublesome at school, where it often results in learning delays, disciplinary problems, social difficulties, and eroded self-confidence. It can also disrupt home life, sparking conflict and amplifying family stress. This workshop will present ICARE, an attachment-based approach that parents can use to help their children overcome the learning and behavioral obstacles created by ADHD and to relieve the stresses ADHD places on family life. During the workshop, participants will explore the science of ADHD, the importance of routine, the impact of attitude, the power of acceptance, and the value of advocacy. Here are even more Resources for Parents from Rick's workshop. ARC by Rick SimonWorkshop Watching Strong, secure Attachments give children the inner resources they need for self-Regulation. In turn, regulation gives them the resilience and focus they need to build their daily Competencies – the learning and behavior skills that help them function successfully at school, at home, and in social situations. This workshop will explore the ARC Framework, a practical, powerful toolkit for helping parents help their children develop healthier Attachment, achieve greater self-Regulation, and learn new Competencies. In addition to presenting background information and recent research, the workshop will provide specific, useful tools parents can use to implement the framework in their children’s lives. Couple Workshop Handouts by Amber LeFevour Do you ever feel like your relationship with your partner plays second fiddle to your role as a parent? The you are not alone! Couples often get so wrapped up with daily life streses that they lose sight of how to maintain their relationship within the family! But your partner relationship is the basis of your family life, and holds the family together. This workshop will explore six characteristics of strong couples, along with examples of how to increase these characteristics within your relationship. Parenting the Theraplay Way by Donna Gates Adopted and foster children often need a different kind of parenting, and these parenting skills may not come naturally to even the best parent. In this workshop a Theraplay expert who understands neurological and developmental issues that might be challenging your child will give you specific ideas and techniques to help you bring joy, fun and laughter back home to your family. They will share with you what you need to know about attachment and trauma, and how parenting the Theraplay way will address your child’s challenges. You will see activities being used with other families, and you will practice them to give you confidence to try them at home. This workshop will address such issues as: how to help your child feel more comfortable accepting your guidance and leadership, how to nip behaviors in the bud without being punitive, how to get away from constant rewards and threats of consequence, how to discipline your child in a way that is effective and fosters learning rather than making the child feel ashamed and vengeful, how to integrate playful, reciprocal interactions to enhance your child’s sense of well‐being and self‐esteem, and how to foster a feeling of connection and joy between your child and you that will last beyond the time of the actual activity/event. Self Care by Rosemary Spizzirri and Caitlin Travers With so much going on in your everyday life as a therapeutic parent, it’s easy to forget one of the key components of the SPACE model – Support. An essential (and perhaps most challenging) part of Support for therapeutic parenting is taking care of your SELF, first and foremost; without that piece of the model, the truth is you may be a less effective therapeutic parent! In this workshop you’ll learn from House Calls Counseling professionals why Support and self-care are so important, you’ll learn some self-care techniques that are easy and effective, and most importantly, you’ll have a chance to talk to fellow parents to learn about what they’re doing to care for themselves. In other words, you’ll get the Support you need and deserve! IMG_0003 Zen and the art of curiosity by Billy Kaplan This workshop will help participants “become one” with curiosity.  It will provide guidelines for practicing the art of curiosity, then it will use video clips to help participants to see examples of success and failures of curiosity in the movies.  And we’ll explore those movie-failures to discover how the characters could have responded… had they understood SPACE!!!