By: Caitlin Travers with Billy Kaplan
Parents and therapists alike agree that children with attachment difficulties are, in many ways, not like other “healthy” children who grew up in warm, nurturing, and consistent homes that allowed for them to feel safe and secure. From the way children with attachment difficulties relate (or perhaps don’t relate) with us, to the way they often disproportionately respond to either our love or our discipline, they are, without a doubt, different and unique. With this in mind, it makes sense that traditional therapies simply don’t work for these kids!
Attachment difficulties occur on a continuum (and truth be told, we all probably have some degree of our own attachment issues!), and at the extreme end is where you’ll find kids with Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD). These kids bring an even more unique challenge to parents and therapists, and again, traditional therapies are probably even less likely to have much of an effect.
That’s where neural reorganization
may come in.
Neural reorganization is a technique and approach that gives you and your child the chance to hit a reset button! Through this practice, you will re-create their early childhood experiences – such as crawling on the tummy, creeping on hands and knees, sensory stimulation, vestibular stimulation, and whole body reflexes – which will allow their brain to experience what it missed out on early on.
With neural reorganization, you and your child can look forward to healthy emotional, behavioral, academic, and physical functionality, but it does take a commitment. While some changes are usually seen within two weeks, altogether it is an 18-month to two-year process, with daily activities averaging an hour a day.
Emily Beard, neurological reorganization practitioner and featured presenter at this year's Parenting in SPACE Conference, speaks to the science behind how children develop attachment difficulties, explaining how critical the first few months of life are in terms of forming the pre-verbal and relational parts of our brains. She goes on to explain how neural reorganization can “un-do” this, by saying:
“Neurological reorganization changes the underlying neurological functionality that contributes to these issues. It gets to the root of the issue, rather than acting as a band-aid to attempt to mitigate the behaviors.”
So if you have a child with Reactive Attachment Disorder, or any child who simply did not get his or her needs met in those precious early months, neural reorganization may be for you. For all the facts and details, you can read Emily’s whole article here
, and you can also come see her present at the 2013 Parenting in SPACE conference!