Why Therapeutic Parenting?

March 5th, 2011

By Billy Kaplan, LCSW – HCC President & Clinical Director

If you have a child with attachment or trauma-related problems, it’s not hard for me to imagine that you’ve given everything you’ve got to help your kid – sometimes even more than you knew you could give – and sometimes more than you wished to give. When you have those moments of frustration and hopelessness, it’s easy for me to imagine your desire to just run away. Pack a lunch box, some clothes, and just leave… For anywhere but home. I am SO sorry you have to experience that sometimes.

I want you to know that there is hope. That’s why House Calls Counseling is having our conference, Parenting in SPACE: A Journey Toward Therapeutic Parenting. Because for your child with attachment or trauma-related problems, good parenting just isn’t enough. Our goal is to help you shift from being a good parent, to being the therapeutic parent your child needs.

Parents often ask me to explain what being a “therapeutic parent” really means. Put most simply:

  • Therapeutic parents cultivate an awareness of themselves.
  • Therapeutic parents cultivate an awareness of their children’s behaviors that trigger them to feel bad.
  • Therapeutic parents practice strategies to manage those triggers.
  • Therapeutic parents make a point to use as many of their interactions with their children as healing opportunities.
  • Therapeutic parents work hard to balance providing structure and discipline with nurturing and empathy.
  • Therapeutic parents maintain an awareness that their children’s out-of-control behaviors and anger, though directed at them, isn’t about them. Rather, these behaviors indicate just how really, really bad these kids feel to their core.
  • Therapeutic parents accept that their children believe that they are bad, unlovable human beings, yet are relentless in their vision of their children as valuable and worthy of love.

If you would like to learn more about making the shift from good parenting to therapeutic parenting, consider joining us at our upcoming conference! Or, feel free to give us a call to discover all the ways House Calls Counseling can help you create healing connections with your child: (847) 256-2000.